Monday 29 August 2011

Joyful, Soulful Sex: The Modern Woman's Guide to Intimacy and Great Sex

JSS is now available on Kindle for your reading pleasure. Easier than ever to have it with you all the time, anywhere, everywhere.

Sunday 28 August 2011

A Little patience goes along way.

Recently, I met a couple who have been married for 10 years and are now calling it quits because as the female partner told me her man just can't get it up anymore and he doesn't even try to please her sexually.  I understand the sex part completely, but to be honest with you I wouldn't be too quick to put him under the bus especially if he has other fine qualities.  Here's a man who is witty, bright, intelligent, gentle and sensitive and most importantly he is  gainfully employed and devoted to his family.  These are some of the qualities that most women and men are looking for in a partner. Of course, sex is important, very important to me but equally important is to have that someone with whom I can share my deepest and darkest with. Someone whom I can rely upon, someone to pick up the slack when I'm down. 

There are so many things a good man can do to excite and arouse a woman into sexual frenzy  without even taking his cock out of his pants. A man with a keen imagination and who has desire for his partner can make magic happens with his tongue and his fingers. And of course if and when push comes to shove and she wants to feel something hard within her vineyard then there is always, the man made ever ready willy on call, 7/24/365 if you want it. 


So if your man is experiencing erectile dysfunction and you are a horny rabbit, be patient let the love you have for him take hold and give him the chance to really explore your body so he can find creative ways to please and pleasure you.  Don't be too quick to chuck him,  you may chuck him in the end but at least find out if there's really anything left in his reserve and remember, we all have reserve.One last thing to think about.  If you want to come to your senses, try to imagine life with your partner in your grey days.  If you require more than sports on television to keep you excited then you had better make sure you can have a meaningful conversation with this soul because in the end, that's basically what it comes down to. Unless of course, you're still quite a horny rabbit then make sure you have sex and good conversations with the old boy:-)







Sunday 21 August 2011

Time to invest is NOW.

Now is the very best time to enter the capital markets and buy cheap stocks or mutual funds.  This is manner from heaven for the wise and prudent investor. I tell you, if this was the Bay or any other consumer sale people would be lining up around the block to get a piece of the action. But no, it's investment so what do they do, instead of staying put and buy low, the masses, in droves rush in like scared rabbits to cash out. Sell, sell, sell - low and wait until the market is moving up again and buy high. 

At the end of the day these are the investors who lament that they don't like to invest in stocks because they've lost money.  It never fails, people lose money because they listen to their friends and neighbors and yes, well meaning family members who always seem to know someone who is making 10% consistently, year over year. (Remember Bernie Madoff - who made off with billions of investor's money?) And the next thing you know they're writing cheques and rubbing their palms waiting for the big win fall.  Well, all that is well and good but after being in the world of finance for over 20 years I can tell you this investing is not a get rich quick scheme. And, it is not for people who don't have a pot to piss in either.  You cannot invest money in the market that you need in the short term. Investing in the capital market for any period shorter than 5 years is crazy!

What I love best about my job as a financial adviser is that I can tell people the absolute truth. If they don't have a big enough pot to piss in - I will discourage them from playing with the big boys and girls in the market place.  It is all about capital.  If you need capital preservation - save your money in Guarateed Investment Certificates, yes the rates are low but you will have your capital. (Just know that you will need a wheel burrow full of paper money to buy a loaf of bread because that is what inflation and taxes does to your meager return.)

If you are interested in capital appreciation of you investment , and your time horizon is long, and this is money you don't need to feed your family, then go to town and invest well. But for god sake, don't panic when the market is doing what it is supposed to do and run for cover.  

I know, these are interesting times we are living in on all fronts in business and in our personal lives. Personal relationships are taking a beating, couples whom I've known for years are calling it quit because they are tired of the same old same old. Women are finding it ever more difficult in finding a real man and I am talking about finding a real man. A real man who truly knows how to respond and communicate effectively and one that not just want to fuck you so that he can feel like a real man. Believe me, there is a big difference.

That is why I am single and will be so until I find the man who can step up to the plate and bring not only fabulous sex to the table but one who is also intelligent, wise, caring and down right easy to talk to.  In a nutshell, I am seeking a man who can  add real value to my life, otherwise, I am continuing to masturbate and avoid stupid sex with stupid men.
 

Live Your Best Live Ever! Even if you are by yourself...enjoy the good times and let it roll.


Saturday 20 August 2011

Taking love for granted

Ever find yourself taking  the one whom  you called your beloved for granted because they're always there for you? Well, if you want to be with the one you're with, best to understand a few things about human relationship. Taking a person for granted devalues them. It makes them feel as though they don't count and when someone feels undervalued guess what, they start to withdraw just to protect themselves.  Some won't even discuss it they will just vacate the premises or the relationship. 

The human spirit is a wonderful thing, it is not to be trifled with or played with.  It is hallowed and blessed and when appreciated oh my, it gives vitality to life.  So, if you want to keep the vital signs in your relationship alive, acknowledge the presence of your beloved, let them know that you care for them and that you appreciate their existence in your life. 

A relationship works well when the involved parties understand the law of reciprocity; the giving and the taking of energy.  Good behavior when acknowledged encourages more good behavior. A simple act of kindness and thoughtfulness goes a long way in the human experience.  Don't be stingy with it, don't try to hold it inside or you will suffocate. It is like air, you must exhale. You must let it out so that you can take more in. This is a sensible way to build and encourage good will within the circle of our world if we are truly serious about living a conscious life full with emotional awareness and love.

Live Your best Life Ever!
Namaste.





Tuesday 16 August 2011

Joyful, soulful Sex: The Modern Woman Guide to Intimacy and Great Sex - now available in eBook format - Kindle

Finally, the sexiest book of the 21st century is now available in eBook format on amazon.com Kindle reader. 
Please visit my website at: www.Joyfulsoulfsex.com and begin the journey inward.

Saturday 13 August 2011

Reader feedback about Joyful, soulful Sex: The Modern Woman's Guide to Intimacy and Great Sex.



This is definitely not a book of recipes for model sex! Charm Darby describes the unseen potential that resides in every woman: a bouquet of qualities that, unfortunately, the man does not know where to look for in a woman. This is the book of secret discoveries that every man and woman should have!

Tudor Botzan, Ph.D.

Friday 12 August 2011

Market Groove

This blog is about  relationship and finance and we've been talking quite a bit about relationship but  with all the movements in the market place the topsy turvy stock markets - the ups and downs and rallying of stocks and mutual fund prices leaves some of us a little shaky.  But why?  we've seen this many times in the past, whatever goes up comes down and goes up again.  The thing is investors sometimes have short memory.  When the market is hot and prices are on the upward move investors have incredible risk tolerance. However, when prices are sliding down suddenly investors are risk averse.  Investors need to shit or get off the pot. 

In a nutshell, this is how it works.  With GIC (Guaranteed Investment Certificates) rates at an all time low there is really no other option than to bite the bullet and invest like a grown up. Research and buy good assets so that when the market is moving in ways that it was made to move you don't panic but sit it out and watch your friends and neighbors and sometimes family members sell their positions at a loss.  You see, this is the typical scenario - buy high when everyone is talking about how great things are like  the way gold  is grabbing investors attention and sell low  when the the price moves down...there is nothing like crystallizing your loss by selling your investment for less than you paid. 

My advice, stop reading the newspapers and turn your television and radio off. Why, because broadcasters are there to sell doom and gloom - to ratchet up the hype about fear, plunder and rape in the market place. You must remember  to keep your head when all about you is losing theirs and blaming it on everything else.

Here is my point.  You don't have to be in the stock market and invest in assets that offer variable returns if you can't take the market volatility.  All you have to do is be prepared to save a hell of lot more of your money. Now if you are like  most people who have used their home as a piggy bank then you know there is no disposable income left you're too buys paying off your debts and no more money to save.  This why you have to invest in the market so that you get some real help from volatility.  That is how the wealthy becomes wealthy and become even more wealthy.


Volatility is the backbone of stock market indices!  If you want to stay on top of things; set up preauthorize contributions on a monthly basis this way you can take advantage of what is called dollar cost average - this is when you buy more of an investment when the price is low and less when the price goes  up and you are amassing units at a reasonable average price.  This way, you are always invested and you never have to worry about market fluctuations and stay up worrying for god sake about your dwindling portfolio.
 
Remember this.  Ships are safe in the harbor but that is not where they belong.  Take a little risk in your life especially if you have many years in front of you or just settle back and resign yourself to working even harder to create wealth.
Take heart, be gentle with yourself and live your best life ever!


Cheers,


Sunday 7 August 2011

Shut out the noise

There is so much noise in the environment one has to work extremely hard to listen to that very quiet inner voice of sanity. The media is over-run with calamity from the world economic crisis to pure and just nonsense. People are being scared shitless out of their investment portfolios only because of the noise and the panic. And trust me, I know panic; fight or flight. Fact is good people it is tiresome! Run for cover and take possession of your mind.

My solution, turn to your heart and your mind for your very own answers.  Forget about the fears of the future. Forget about acquiring the latest or the hottest gadgets it won't make you any better than you are, it is a lark. You are the greatest thing since slice bread in your very own solar system. It is all about YOU, no matter what the situation always turn it back to you and when you find out you mistepped take heart and be humble and own up to your misdeeds.  Humility is a precious gift it allows us to exercise empathy and love to self and others. 

Responding to things instead of reacting to them will add years - quality years to your life or not...it really doesn't matter.  Live for now and quietly plan for the tomorrows that may or may not come for you.

Want to live a life of peace and harmony?  Realize this nothing in our existence is real, it is a grand illusion of which collectively we have embraced in one accord.  We are on this beautiful planet that has everything we need to sustain our lives - everything else is a dream, que sara, sara...whatever will be will be.

Make the most out of your life - do whatever the hell you please - just don't hurt anybody.

Yesterday my friend Alice and I decided that we would everyday do something that we have never done before. Doing something different each day will enable you to live a more conscious and aware existence. Just think how expansive your life will be when you are learning and doing something new everyday.  It does not have to be anything grand. Just something that alters your personal perception of who you are which may only be discernible to you and that is all that matters.  This is not an exercise for the world to see in order to judge and praise you. It is only for you to see to love and praise yourself in the quiet of your soul.

Live your best life ever. I love you.
Cheers,

Friday 5 August 2011

Here's what some readers have to say about my new book, Joyful, Soulful Sex: The Modern Woman's Guide to Intimacy and Great Sex

 I love the process of writing, as an author it give me the opportunity to look into myself and discover all kinds of little caverns and valleys, little parts of me that is ever making the self more and more aware.  It is a process of self discovery all the time.  My goal is to write a new book every two years, and  believe me when I tell you I have enough fodder for a couple of lifetimes.

Read below and find out what readers of Joyful, Soulful Sex has to say about The sexiest book of the 21st century: And check out www.joyfulsoulfulsex.com to order your copy...soon to be available in eBook.
 

I would like to recommend the following book:  Joyful, Soulful Sex: The Modern Woman's Guide to Intimacy and Great Sex, by Charm Darby who hails from North Toronto. I was going to take it on holiday to read this summer but finished it in a couple of sittings this week. It is a powerful and ground-breaking book which I am sure is going to catch on like wildfire. I have never read such a good book on the subject of women's sexuality but just as informative for men. I do hope you will consider it

Richard Tanner


Charm Darby’s Joyful, Soulful Sex is a strikingly candid portrait of a universal taboo subject many still believe should only be discussed in whispered conversations.
In an honest and straightforward way, Darby takes her readers through a series of references and events that consistently expose sex as a naked, shared, course of action.
The educational quality of Joyful, Soulful Sex is well defined throughout the book and thoughtfully clarified under dos and don’ts in the final Chapters.
Readers will probably be tantalized and aroused by sexual accounts in Joyful, Soulful Sex but, make no mistake, Darby’s bold, in your face assumptions, with adjectives that describe the nouns of which she speaks, force her readers to examine their own forbidden fantasies.  Joyful, Soulful Sex could well be the sexual awakening that today’s women and men seek.
A must read, Joyful, Soulful Sex is a unique book, written by an extraordinary person.
Olive  Rose Steele

 Hello,
 My name is Alice Wynter and I would like to submit a title for your book club program.

The title is, Joyful, Soulful Sex: The Modern Woman's Guide to Intimacy and Great Sex - By Charm Darby.  (Charm is a resident of North Toronto, and her book has just been launched this month)

This book is a great read for everyone.... men, women, young, and old.   It touches upon the deeper aspects of a sexual relationship, namely how as emotional beings our sexual encounters are affected by the state of mind that we are in (and our partner is in) at the time.  I found many enlightening passages, and as a woman of 42, I thought I had pretty much heard it all, but Charm's book was eye opening and made me realize just how right she is as I was able to identify with many of the stories told.  
Beautifully written, at times you find yourself in awe, laughing out loud, or even cringing, but Charm lays all issues on the table with wild abandon, and you are left reading the final chapter feeling as if you've just had a heart to heart conversation with your best friend. 

I highly recommend this book, which would be a great summer, read during the lazy, hazy days of summer.

Alice Wynter

 
This book is a true blessing! It honours the Higher Self, the Higher Spirit, the Soul, the YOU. At the same time it grounds you back to your deep origins. It is an amazing journey
of finding the TRUE YOU and of knowing YOU at a superior level.

Angelica Necula, S.S.B, M.Sc.,
Reiki Master/Teacher
Bowen Practitioner

Tuesday 2 August 2011

Know your worth.

Ever notice how in the business world the investment analysts and finance writers are always talking about valuation?.  I've been thinking about valuation a lot lately  and have realized that  for the most part a lot of us do not know our true value.  Of course, I am not talking about value as in $$$ - but value as in who you are as a unique individual, what you contribute to the lives of those whom you touch on a regular basis.

If you were to drop dead this instant what would your legacy be? And I'm not talking about the impression you leave on the world but on those few hundreds of people you have in your solar system as friends, family, acquaintances, associates, work colleagues  and yes, even those people whom you may call your enemies.  That's what I am talking about the you, the essence of who you are,  your intellect, your spirit, your emotion, your love, your gentleness, your humility and above your sense of justice.

To realize that you are beautiful, brilliant, smart, sexy, joyful, tender, spontaneous,  wise and sometimes a little foolish is of great value to the soul. To know that you are worth it and that you are IT and that IT is all that counts is my legacy to this joyful, predictable yet totally unpredictable life.

What is the value of the  soul? What is the value of the spirit? What is the value of unconditional LOVE. Priceless and you are worth IT  all, all of  IT.
Live your best life ever!
Cheers

Monday 1 August 2011

Communication - how it can make or break a friendship

I've met someone that I'm really quite interested in - he had to go away for the weekend for business and we lost mobile service. He was sending me messages and I was not receiving  them. I was sending him messages and he wasn't receiving them.  I jumped to the conclusion that he might be a flake and I'm certain he thought I was not interested.  Turns out we were both wrong.

That was a teachable moment. First thing, do not jump to conclusions or make wild assumptions you will always be off the mark for the most part. Have some faith in the person you are dealing with and always give them the benefit of the doubt until they prove otherwise.

Second thing: Do not react to run a way thoughts and imagination  that have no substance they can ruin a good thing.

As for me and  my  interested party...we'll see where we go from here.

Have a great day and live your best life.