Lately, I've had reasons to start taking a closer look at some of the people whom I call my "friends" and realized that most of these "friends" are not really my friends but more like acquaintances that could become real genuine friends.
What is really at the heart of the art of friendship is love. Yes, love. When was the last time you told your best friend that you love them? When was the last time you were totally honest with your best friend? When was the last time you went beyond the call of duty to show your support and commitment to the ones whom you call, "friends?" Those are loaded questions. What it boils down to is this; most of us could count on our finger, the amount of real friends we have. That's the gospel truth.
In this the 21st century, "friends" have a whole new meaning. The next time you declare that someone is your friend take a moment and really inspect that thought and see if that friend is really a friend or a friend to be because believe it or not too much energy is being used up spending time with people who do not care one flying fart about you and they're your friends.
Friends come in all types, you have the friends that call you only when they have big issues and are looking for a sounding board. You have friends that are seeking others to entertain them. Friends who simply want someone, anyone to pass the time with because anything is better than being with the self.
These thoughts got me started thinking about those in my circle that I call friends and low and behold yes, like everyone else there are in this world three people that I know will come to my funeral or my wake whether or not it is raining, snowing or sunshine. These are my friends: I, me, and myself. These three are always with me in good times and not so good times and all the times. They are with me when I fail and when I succeed, when I am sad and when I am joyously happy. They are with me when I am in love and when I'm out of love. They are my true friends because even when I am afraid they stick around to help me conquer fear.
The true art of friendship begins with friendship with the self. Today for the first time in a long time I consciously gave thanks for the gifts that I have been given, my talents, my personality, my inner strength and outer weaknesses and for my over all operating systems; everything that keeps me moving even when I am not.
So yes, I am best friend to myself because I am always there for me, and I never just show up I am in IT.
Live your best life ever!
Cheers.
Sunday, 18 September 2011
Friday, 2 September 2011
Your Money and your Love
Over the past twenty years of meeting with and counseling hundreds of clients on their financial matters; I've noticed that couples, whether married, or common law face the dilemma of disclosing financial information. Why is this so? It occurred to me that in every relationship there will always be one person who will be more financially engaged than the other. This can be both positive and negative depending on the particular situation and the quality of the relationship. There is no doubt about it, money is as important in a relationship as the love itself. A relationship where financial affairs are not clear and open to each partner will create conflict, deep conflict.
Working couples who are both bread winners and are both engaged in their financial affairs are more apt to be at odds with each other when one person puts him/herself above the other in terms of productivity and income. The value in a relationship goes beyond dollars and cents, it goes beyond trust, it is all about a sense of team work. Working together to build a future for both to enjoy. Couples are reluctant, I suspect because I believe deep in their subconscious they're thinking their marriage might not last the test of time and so folks are always hedging their bets to make sure what's their's is their's and what's ours is mine. No kidding. I've seen it all.
With the onslaught of marriages that are breaking down it is understandable that income generation and assets accumulation takes on a more pragmatic vein in the 21st century. Almost everyone knows of a couple whose marriage ended and one of the couple is living in near poverty while the other prospers. Of course this always depends on the one who has the deepest pocket - with enough resources to make sure they get their just dessert.
In my opinion, the best way to handle this dilemma is to understand that no one knows what the future holds. Our lives is based upon hope. Hope. That's it. We hope everyday that we remain healthy and strong to do the things we do and enjoy doing. We hope everyday that our lovers and children will be loyal and devoted to us. We hope everyday that the job we make so many personal sacrifices for will be there for us so that we can continue to enjoy the lifetstyle we've grown accustomed to. There are no guarantees. One thing is for sure though, two people can do far more than one person can and that is why relationships are perfect for wealth accumulation and personal growth. So, don't hide that bank account or that investment that you started because you didn't want your mate to know you are not putting all your eggs in one basket. Make this part of your relationship as transparent as possible. Because most relationships break down over money not for the lack of it but for the mismanagement of money.
Fall is the season where folks start to think seriously about their investments and financial resources, especially after a very wonderful summer. Lots of money spent into the economy, yes, that is very good and perhaps lots of debts acquired and you say, "What the hell, I'll be working till I'm dead anyway but meantime, I'll be living the life of Riley." Be careful, bad debt gives bad credit rating and without financial credibility you are screwed.
More on money and love to come in the coming months.
Live your best life ever.
Working couples who are both bread winners and are both engaged in their financial affairs are more apt to be at odds with each other when one person puts him/herself above the other in terms of productivity and income. The value in a relationship goes beyond dollars and cents, it goes beyond trust, it is all about a sense of team work. Working together to build a future for both to enjoy. Couples are reluctant, I suspect because I believe deep in their subconscious they're thinking their marriage might not last the test of time and so folks are always hedging their bets to make sure what's their's is their's and what's ours is mine. No kidding. I've seen it all.
With the onslaught of marriages that are breaking down it is understandable that income generation and assets accumulation takes on a more pragmatic vein in the 21st century. Almost everyone knows of a couple whose marriage ended and one of the couple is living in near poverty while the other prospers. Of course this always depends on the one who has the deepest pocket - with enough resources to make sure they get their just dessert.
In my opinion, the best way to handle this dilemma is to understand that no one knows what the future holds. Our lives is based upon hope. Hope. That's it. We hope everyday that we remain healthy and strong to do the things we do and enjoy doing. We hope everyday that our lovers and children will be loyal and devoted to us. We hope everyday that the job we make so many personal sacrifices for will be there for us so that we can continue to enjoy the lifetstyle we've grown accustomed to. There are no guarantees. One thing is for sure though, two people can do far more than one person can and that is why relationships are perfect for wealth accumulation and personal growth. So, don't hide that bank account or that investment that you started because you didn't want your mate to know you are not putting all your eggs in one basket. Make this part of your relationship as transparent as possible. Because most relationships break down over money not for the lack of it but for the mismanagement of money.
Fall is the season where folks start to think seriously about their investments and financial resources, especially after a very wonderful summer. Lots of money spent into the economy, yes, that is very good and perhaps lots of debts acquired and you say, "What the hell, I'll be working till I'm dead anyway but meantime, I'll be living the life of Riley." Be careful, bad debt gives bad credit rating and without financial credibility you are screwed.
More on money and love to come in the coming months.
Live your best life ever.
Monday, 29 August 2011
Joyful, Soulful Sex: The Modern Woman's Guide to Intimacy and Great Sex
JSS is now available on Kindle for your reading pleasure. Easier than ever to have it with you all the time, anywhere, everywhere.
Sunday, 28 August 2011
A Little patience goes along way.
Recently, I met a couple who have been married for 10 years and are now calling it quits because as the female partner told me her man just can't get it up anymore and he doesn't even try to please her sexually. I understand the sex part completely, but to be honest with you I wouldn't be too quick to put him under the bus especially if he has other fine qualities. Here's a man who is witty, bright, intelligent, gentle and sensitive and most importantly he is gainfully employed and devoted to his family. These are some of the qualities that most women and men are looking for in a partner. Of course, sex is important, very important to me but equally important is to have that someone with whom I can share my deepest and darkest with. Someone whom I can rely upon, someone to pick up the slack when I'm down.
There are so many things a good man can do to excite and arouse a woman into sexual frenzy without even taking his cock out of his pants. A man with a keen imagination and who has desire for his partner can make magic happens with his tongue and his fingers. And of course if and when push comes to shove and she wants to feel something hard within her vineyard then there is always, the man made ever ready willy on call, 7/24/365 if you want it.
So if your man is experiencing erectile dysfunction and you are a horny rabbit, be patient let the love you have for him take hold and give him the chance to really explore your body so he can find creative ways to please and pleasure you. Don't be too quick to chuck him, you may chuck him in the end but at least find out if there's really anything left in his reserve and remember, we all have reserve.One last thing to think about. If you want to come to your senses, try to imagine life with your partner in your grey days. If you require more than sports on television to keep you excited then you had better make sure you can have a meaningful conversation with this soul because in the end, that's basically what it comes down to. Unless of course, you're still quite a horny rabbit then make sure you have sex and good conversations with the old boy:-)
There are so many things a good man can do to excite and arouse a woman into sexual frenzy without even taking his cock out of his pants. A man with a keen imagination and who has desire for his partner can make magic happens with his tongue and his fingers. And of course if and when push comes to shove and she wants to feel something hard within her vineyard then there is always, the man made ever ready willy on call, 7/24/365 if you want it.
So if your man is experiencing erectile dysfunction and you are a horny rabbit, be patient let the love you have for him take hold and give him the chance to really explore your body so he can find creative ways to please and pleasure you. Don't be too quick to chuck him, you may chuck him in the end but at least find out if there's really anything left in his reserve and remember, we all have reserve.One last thing to think about. If you want to come to your senses, try to imagine life with your partner in your grey days. If you require more than sports on television to keep you excited then you had better make sure you can have a meaningful conversation with this soul because in the end, that's basically what it comes down to. Unless of course, you're still quite a horny rabbit then make sure you have sex and good conversations with the old boy:-)
Sunday, 21 August 2011
Time to invest is NOW.
Now is the very best time to enter the capital markets and buy cheap stocks or mutual funds. This is manner from heaven for the wise and prudent investor. I tell you, if this was the Bay or any other consumer sale people would be lining up around the block to get a piece of the action. But no, it's investment so what do they do, instead of staying put and buy low, the masses, in droves rush in like scared rabbits to cash out. Sell, sell, sell - low and wait until the market is moving up again and buy high.
At the end of the day these are the investors who lament that they don't like to invest in stocks because they've lost money. It never fails, people lose money because they listen to their friends and neighbors and yes, well meaning family members who always seem to know someone who is making 10% consistently, year over year. (Remember Bernie Madoff - who made off with billions of investor's money?) And the next thing you know they're writing cheques and rubbing their palms waiting for the big win fall. Well, all that is well and good but after being in the world of finance for over 20 years I can tell you this investing is not a get rich quick scheme. And, it is not for people who don't have a pot to piss in either. You cannot invest money in the market that you need in the short term. Investing in the capital market for any period shorter than 5 years is crazy!
What I love best about my job as a financial adviser is that I can tell people the absolute truth. If they don't have a big enough pot to piss in - I will discourage them from playing with the big boys and girls in the market place. It is all about capital. If you need capital preservation - save your money in Guarateed Investment Certificates, yes the rates are low but you will have your capital. (Just know that you will need a wheel burrow full of paper money to buy a loaf of bread because that is what inflation and taxes does to your meager return.)
If you are interested in capital appreciation of you investment , and your time horizon is long, and this is money you don't need to feed your family, then go to town and invest well. But for god sake, don't panic when the market is doing what it is supposed to do and run for cover.
I know, these are interesting times we are living in on all fronts in business and in our personal lives. Personal relationships are taking a beating, couples whom I've known for years are calling it quit because they are tired of the same old same old. Women are finding it ever more difficult in finding a real man and I am talking about finding a real man. A real man who truly knows how to respond and communicate effectively and one that not just want to fuck you so that he can feel like a real man. Believe me, there is a big difference.
That is why I am single and will be so until I find the man who can step up to the plate and bring not only fabulous sex to the table but one who is also intelligent, wise, caring and down right easy to talk to. In a nutshell, I am seeking a man who can add real value to my life, otherwise, I am continuing to masturbate and avoid stupid sex with stupid men.
Live Your Best Live Ever! Even if you are by yourself...enjoy the good times and let it roll.
At the end of the day these are the investors who lament that they don't like to invest in stocks because they've lost money. It never fails, people lose money because they listen to their friends and neighbors and yes, well meaning family members who always seem to know someone who is making 10% consistently, year over year. (Remember Bernie Madoff - who made off with billions of investor's money?) And the next thing you know they're writing cheques and rubbing their palms waiting for the big win fall. Well, all that is well and good but after being in the world of finance for over 20 years I can tell you this investing is not a get rich quick scheme. And, it is not for people who don't have a pot to piss in either. You cannot invest money in the market that you need in the short term. Investing in the capital market for any period shorter than 5 years is crazy!
What I love best about my job as a financial adviser is that I can tell people the absolute truth. If they don't have a big enough pot to piss in - I will discourage them from playing with the big boys and girls in the market place. It is all about capital. If you need capital preservation - save your money in Guarateed Investment Certificates, yes the rates are low but you will have your capital. (Just know that you will need a wheel burrow full of paper money to buy a loaf of bread because that is what inflation and taxes does to your meager return.)
If you are interested in capital appreciation of you investment , and your time horizon is long, and this is money you don't need to feed your family, then go to town and invest well. But for god sake, don't panic when the market is doing what it is supposed to do and run for cover.
I know, these are interesting times we are living in on all fronts in business and in our personal lives. Personal relationships are taking a beating, couples whom I've known for years are calling it quit because they are tired of the same old same old. Women are finding it ever more difficult in finding a real man and I am talking about finding a real man. A real man who truly knows how to respond and communicate effectively and one that not just want to fuck you so that he can feel like a real man. Believe me, there is a big difference.
That is why I am single and will be so until I find the man who can step up to the plate and bring not only fabulous sex to the table but one who is also intelligent, wise, caring and down right easy to talk to. In a nutshell, I am seeking a man who can add real value to my life, otherwise, I am continuing to masturbate and avoid stupid sex with stupid men.
Live Your Best Live Ever! Even if you are by yourself...enjoy the good times and let it roll.
Saturday, 20 August 2011
Taking love for granted
Ever find yourself taking the one whom you called your beloved for granted because they're always there for you? Well, if you want to be with the one you're with, best to understand a few things about human relationship. Taking a person for granted devalues them. It makes them feel as though they don't count and when someone feels undervalued guess what, they start to withdraw just to protect themselves. Some won't even discuss it they will just vacate the premises or the relationship.
The human spirit is a wonderful thing, it is not to be trifled with or played with. It is hallowed and blessed and when appreciated oh my, it gives vitality to life. So, if you want to keep the vital signs in your relationship alive, acknowledge the presence of your beloved, let them know that you care for them and that you appreciate their existence in your life.
A relationship works well when the involved parties understand the law of reciprocity; the giving and the taking of energy. Good behavior when acknowledged encourages more good behavior. A simple act of kindness and thoughtfulness goes a long way in the human experience. Don't be stingy with it, don't try to hold it inside or you will suffocate. It is like air, you must exhale. You must let it out so that you can take more in. This is a sensible way to build and encourage good will within the circle of our world if we are truly serious about living a conscious life full with emotional awareness and love.
Live Your best Life Ever!
Namaste.
The human spirit is a wonderful thing, it is not to be trifled with or played with. It is hallowed and blessed and when appreciated oh my, it gives vitality to life. So, if you want to keep the vital signs in your relationship alive, acknowledge the presence of your beloved, let them know that you care for them and that you appreciate their existence in your life.
A relationship works well when the involved parties understand the law of reciprocity; the giving and the taking of energy. Good behavior when acknowledged encourages more good behavior. A simple act of kindness and thoughtfulness goes a long way in the human experience. Don't be stingy with it, don't try to hold it inside or you will suffocate. It is like air, you must exhale. You must let it out so that you can take more in. This is a sensible way to build and encourage good will within the circle of our world if we are truly serious about living a conscious life full with emotional awareness and love.
Live Your best Life Ever!
Namaste.
Tuesday, 16 August 2011
Joyful, soulful Sex: The Modern Woman Guide to Intimacy and Great Sex - now available in eBook format - Kindle
Finally, the sexiest book of the 21st century is now available in eBook format on amazon.com Kindle reader.
Please visit my website at: www.Joyfulsoulfsex.com and begin the journey inward.
Please visit my website at: www.Joyfulsoulfsex.com and begin the journey inward.
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